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What to Say When You Quit Your Job

What to Say When You Get Your Job

You’re ready to quit. Congratulations! But what will you say when you quit your job?

PLAN A

PLAN B

Even if coordinating your pocket square to your backup singers is not your style, you’ll still want to practice what you want to say to your boss on Quittin’ Day.

The biggest fear most purpose-driven people have when it comes to quitting is coming off like a flake. Even if they’ve been mistreated, underpaid, and under appreciated, they still want to do things the right way and not leave anybody in the lurch.

The good news is you can quit your job with integrity. Quitting and flaking are not the same.

First things first: do you have a written agreement with your employer? Haul that out and read the fine print. Most contracts include details about what happens if you breach the contract. Others stipulate how much notice you have to give, with 2 weeks being pretty standard. If possible, follow the guidelines laid out in any written documents you’ve signed. You can always check in with HR if you have questions. If this is an emergency exit , be aware of any potential consequences from bailing early.

YOU’LL BE NERVOUS

Even if this has been a long time coming and you KNOW it’s the right thing to do, you’ll probably get a nice adrenaline rush as you walk towards your boss’ office. Your heart rate will go up, you’ll be sweatin’ through that silk blouse, you might even get a case of the shaky hands. This is why you practice.

WHAT TO SAY WHEN YOU QUIT YOUR JOB

Here’s the breakdown of what you’re going to say:

1. Start with the weird

So, um, awkward. You don’t have to pretend that you don’t have feelings about this. If you’re afraid that your boss is going to think bad things about you, that’s a perfect icebreaker. It’s kind of a neat psychological trick that makes people more open and less defensive because you’re being a little vulnerable. Mwah ha ha.

2. Give a reason

Why are you leaving? This doesn’t have to be the whole truth if you’re not comfortable going there. Even a vague version of the truth will do.

3. Offer to help (optional)

If you want to (but if this place has been filled with jerk faces, feel free to skip it), you can offer to help find or train your replacement.

4. End with gratitude

Because it’s the classy thing to do, and you’ll feel better if you do it. You are leaving this place, but you can leave with your integrity intact and feel proud of how you handled your departure.

  1. Anonymous

    August 3rd, 2014 at 11:03 am

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  2. sage@sagegrayson.com

    August 3rd, 2014 at 8:48 pm

    Haha! That song was pretty good, but your advice is spot-on, Laura. I’m sharing this post with several of my clients who are working on their exit strategies. No need to burn bridges or make it more awkward than it needs to be. Great script!

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  4. amberrtraeger@gmail.com

    December 15th, 2014 at 9:20 pm

    My situation is awkward. Of course, they’re all awkward!
    I asked my boss two weeks ago if it would be possible to cut my hours back from full-time to half-time, given that I just had a baby, my husband works 40+ on the regular, AND we own and run our own property management business in addition to our day jobs. Well, she said no, but she mentioned that she would think about an arrangement that may work for everyone.

    Two weeks have come and gone… nothing.

    We have a position within our organization opening up that’s super part-time and perfect for my schedule and skill set. How in the world do I go about having a second awkward conversation with this woman?

  5. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    December 17th, 2014 at 12:45 am

    Hey Amber,
    This is a big deal in your life. It is not a big deal in her life. So you’re counting the days and she’s not. I don’t think it’s that awkward. Something as simple as, “Remember how you were going to think about an arrangement that would work for everyone? I think it might be right under our noses. This would be ideal for me. What do you think?”

    Good luck!

  6. sarah.2326@yahoo.com

    February 23rd, 2015 at 4:26 am

    I have been at my job for a little under a year now. This has been my first job out of college, and although I am actually very grateful for the opportunity to work in the position I am in now, I just know that I have no future there. It is a very small company and I do enjoy the people I work with. It is just that the job itself/ the industry is something I have no interest in. I accepted this job on a whim because it was the first thing that was offered to me, and I was a somewhat desperate recent graduate. I have now decided to go back to school and pursue something in the field that I majored in. I am extremely nervous about telling my boss that I am leaving. I plan on letting him know that I would like to stay for another month to help ease the transition, and then I will be leaving. I am also concerned about letting my co-workers know, as we work very closely with one another.
    My main question is how do I go about starting the conversation. Do I just walk in and say “This has been a tough decision for me, but I have decided that I want to pursue other career options” and go from there? Or do I give a long spiel first, then let him respond. Any tips appreciated!

  7. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    February 23rd, 2015 at 1:56 pm

    Sounds like a great opener to me. No long spiel needed!

  8. desierdotyra@yahoo.com

    July 14th, 2015 at 11:17 am

    Sarah we have the same situation. I am currently working at night for five months now and this is my first job.i want to quit the job because 1.i am not enjoying, 2. Working at night is really hard to the point that i am always sick. Im having a hard time telling my boss that i am quitting :/

  9. reedheather1053@gmail.com

    March 20th, 2015 at 5:54 pm

    I work as an in-home nanny for a family with 2 small children. Although I don’t live with the family, I work in their home every day, taking care primarily of the youngest who is now 2.5. I’ve been there since the little one was 5 months old, and have become part of the family in a sense. My employer (a stay-at-home mom, who hired me to entertain her children while she had time to herself), however, does not value me as anything more than a common house maid who cares for her kids. The pay is good, and the schedule is ideal, but over the years I’ve grown tired of this job. Leaving will be devastating for her, but I know it’s what I need to do.
    Any advice on how to break the news without breaking hearts?

  10. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    March 23rd, 2015 at 8:20 pm

    I think you’ll probably break some hearts, and that’s ok. Be kind, express gratitude, give them plenty of notice. That will keep you in integrity, and their response is totally our of your hands.

  11. cutie_pie1053@yahoo.com

    May 19th, 2015 at 4:39 pm

    Thank you! Today is the day I let them know, as I have just gotten hired at the preschool I’ve had my eye on for quite some time (my dream job!) Thanks so much for your advice. Wish me luck!

  12. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    May 19th, 2015 at 6:49 pm

    Good luck! Let me know how it goes!

  13. katrina.sparks85@gmail.com

    April 26th, 2015 at 8:27 pm

    I have written my resignation, but I am nervous about what to say when I hive it. I am leaving a job of ten years. Help please!

  14. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    April 26th, 2015 at 10:42 pm

    Katrina, use the outline above and write your practice script here in the comments.

  15. idontknowkayla@hotmail.com

    July 3rd, 2015 at 8:38 pm

    So, I’ve never formally quit a job before. I mean, I’ve just left one shift and not come back, but this is a very good company and I want a chance at coming back, if I needed to.Anyway, I was offered a new position(starting this monday), and I just have no idea how to talk to my manager about me leaving? Plus, I want to leave next week! I mean, I know I should give 2 weeks, but my new job needs me to be on-call on friday and saturday evenings, which I’m scheduled at my current job. How should I go about it?

  16. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    July 3rd, 2015 at 8:50 pm

    Kayla, just use the formula above plugging in the particulars of your situation. It’s going to feel weird, no way around that. You got this!

  17. joy.qi96@yahoo.com

    July 16th, 2015 at 1:47 pm

    I’ve worked in a childcare centre for 2 months before they transferred me to a different branch. (First job!) And, my boss pretty much hates me. She is not letting me adjust and learn the children’s routines before transferring me to a different age group and this has really taken a toll on me. There is no way I can adjust to a room in 3 days, these things take at least a few weeks, especially when I’m a new face to the kids. Instead, she has moved me to do all the kitchen duties and I barely have time to spend with the children yet she still expects me to be on the floor with the kids (I have to do all the morning teas, lunches and afternoon tea + dishes). Not only that, she is unappreciative to all the duties I do for them and says I am “not helpful” in the rooms when I have successfully helped the routine flow. I have no idea how to quit as this is my first job! Any ideas?

  18. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    July 16th, 2015 at 5:26 pm

    Hi, Joy. Sorry about this situation for you; it sucks when you aren’t given a fair chance and are under-appreciated. Just use the guidelines above and you’ll be fine.

  19. lehanekom@gmail.com

    August 18th, 2015 at 11:01 am

    Hi, Laura!I find your advice very comforting. Alas, I am still so nervous to quit my job. To put it plainly, I am scared of my boss. She is very intimidating and unreasonable. I have worked for this small business for 8 months and it is my first job. I know I need to quit. My boss exploits me in that she keeps me at work for 15 hours in a day sometimes (this happens every time we have an exhibition coming up) and I end up going home very late at night, exhausted and feeling miserable. This would be less of a problem if she actually paid me for my overtime, but she just promises me time off, which I never get equal to the time she owes me, and sometimes I just don’t get the time off at all. In the 8 months I have driven around for her almost daily and I have not received payment for my fuel consumption once. She blames me for things that aren’t in my control or my fault. My salary is very small and she made false promises about raising it. The final straw is that I have requested a cobtract many times throughout the year and I still have not been given one, which allows her to have no boundaries with me. I basically run the business by myself and I have no one helping me with the work oad. It’s a lot of pressure and responsibility that I can no longer handle. She is very manipulative and somehow always manages to turn things around on me whenever I try to sum up the courage to talk to her about these problems. I am planning on quitting at the end of the month and I won’t offer to stay another month as she will have hard feelings towards me and will mistreat me at work (we share an office). I know once I have quit she will be in a spot but I can’t stay any longer. I have other work waiting for me so the only problem I have is that I am terrified to quit. She is going to give me an extremely hard time and I’m sure of that. Please give me advice! P.S. Sorry for the long read!

  20. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    August 18th, 2015 at 11:09 am

    Jessica! Quitting will be scary no matter what. Use the steps above to practice what you’re going to say.
    Before you talk to your boss, go to the bathroom or somewhere private, and tense every muscle and hold your breath for as long as you can. Do that about 3 times. This will help discharge nervous energy and keep you calm.

    When the time comes, focus on your breathing. Take deep, slow breaths. Your breath is your lifeline. If your boss gets angry or tries to be manipulative, put the focus on your breath. Do not participate in any drama. If she yells, is mean, etc, you just breathe. If she tries to talk you into staying, your line is: “My decision is final.” You say it as many times as you have to. If she is verbally abusive, you can just calmly walk out of the room. Breathe, breathe, breathe. You can do this!

  21. lehanekom@gmail.com

    August 18th, 2015 at 7:47 pm

    Thank you so much! I am all the way in South Africa and am surprised and delighted with the quick reply! Your tips have really given me peace of mind and are just what I needed!

  22. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    August 18th, 2015 at 8:05 pm

    Glad I could help! Hope you’ll stop by and let me know how it went.

  23. gianbrecia@gmail.com

    August 25th, 2015 at 5:47 pm

    Hi Laura. I currently work for the federal government and have been extremely unhappy with the state of affairs in the office. Rude boss, lazy coworkers, poor planning, etc. A former employer contacted me recently and offered me a great opportunity to work for my old company, which I have decided to accept. I am required to give 30 days notice, which I intend to do. I am concerned though, that my supervisor will react negatively and ask me to leave then and there or have me escorted out. Any tips or advice on how to prevent this? If asked to leave, I plan on just walking out the door and not saying a word.

  24. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    August 25th, 2015 at 6:07 pm

    Hi Brain,
    Glad you’re getting out. This is a great question for HR; they should be able to help you.

    Good luck!
    Laura

  25. wildirisblue@gmail.com

    August 27th, 2015 at 12:57 am

    At what point in the day (beginning, middle, or end?) would you recommend breaking the news and beginning the process of leaving?

  26. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    August 27th, 2015 at 1:02 am

    I would do the beginning of the day so you don’t have to sweat all day!

  27. pgr7192@yahoo.com

    September 21st, 2015 at 8:59 pm

    Hello, Laura. I have a rather unique situation and am not really sure how to resign gracefully. I was a stay at home mom for many years. I had three children and my youngest son had health issues that required me to be available at a moment’s notice, therefore, I did not work a steady job. In March of 2013,at the age of 13, he passed from injuries in an accident and I was inconsolable. I basically waited for death for almost two years. When I was able to work again, I took a job with a former employer because it felt safe. I did well and was offered a position elsewhere that provided benefits and a retirement plan.In my interview, I was asked why I had such a spotty employment record and I explained everything to the interviewer. I became a custodian at a high school my older children had attended and my youngest child would have attended, thinking I would have the same feeling of safety as I was there for all of my older children’s activities. The exact opposite has happened. Everywhere I look I am reminded of things that my youngest child will not experience and as a result, I am now having anxiety attacks. I was simply not ready.
    I am not going to be able to continue in this job and want to express my appreciation for them allowing me the opportunity and possibly leave the door open for employment later if I need to. How should I go about attaining that goal?

  28. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    October 5th, 2015 at 9:30 am

    Hi Pam,
    I’ve just seen your comment, so I apologize for the slow response.

    I’m so sorry about the inconceivable loss of your child. As a mother, my heart goes out to you.

    In your situation, I think writing a letter of resignation is a good option. If the thought of having this talk with your boss is too much, write it down. Beware of oversharing; stick to the facts. Use the script outline above; it will still apply here.

    Best to you,
    Laura

  29. sarah431998@yahoo.com

    October 1st, 2015 at 3:36 am

    Hey! I am in high school and have a part time job. I want to quit because my next semester is really busy and I don’t like working during the school year. I would feel more comfortable emailing my boss telling her that I am quitting because when I get nervous I can’t think straight and mess up my words. If I emailed I would be able to say what I want to clearly and make sure it sounds alright. Do you think I need to tell her in person? Or would it be fine to email since it is just a small part time job, nothing professional?

  30. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    October 1st, 2015 at 11:38 am

    Sarah, I would say be brave and use this as practice. You will have to do many scary or unpleasant things in your career. Since this is fairly low stakes, do it in person. Then you’ll have done it once and the next time won’t be so bad. Plus, it’s way classier to give notice in person. Choose classy.

  31. tgrashuis@gmail.com

    October 4th, 2015 at 10:44 pm

    Hi Laura,
    I have kind of a sticky situation. I took a job believing that it was one thing, but, following training and being in the job for a few weeks, I feel that this was not the job I signed up for (it even seems to require me to be slightly unethical and sort of live in that “gray” area of sales). I’m not sure how best to resign since, though I have some job opportunities in the works, I don’t have another position lined up right now. The people I work for are really nice, but I really feel misled with the job description and what the job actually entailed. How do I best resign this soon after being hired, without coming off as flaky or unprofessional, and is it necessary to give 2 weeks notice (I’m afraid of going through 2 whole weeks of awkwardness and having continue using practices that I don’t feel comfortable with)?

  32. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    October 5th, 2015 at 9:21 am

    Hi Elise,
    I’m sorry you’re in this uncomfortable situation. As a reminder, you haven’t done anything wrong; there’s a disconnect between what you were told about the job and what the job actually is. You are not flaky or unprofessional. You might appear that way if you are apologetic and hem and haw. Have confidence in your decision. Be kind and firm. You don’t have to give a reason for leaving beyond “It’s not a good fit” or you’re looking at other opportunities. You set the tone. No cringing and squirming!

    As for the 2 weeks, check your company guidelines or employment agreement if you have one. Two weeks is the standard notice given and would be ideal, but may not be required. If there is an HR department, you can talk with them about how best to handle things.

    You can do it!
    Laura

  33. Plantgyrl@gmail.com

    October 10th, 2015 at 3:13 pm

    I’ve been at my job for 4 weeks and I am not happy at my job,my employer doesn’t speak very good english and I’m having a very hard time understanding what he wants from me as an employee. There are only a few employees within the business but I have already found a better job that needs me to start on monday and today is saturday so I may just have to leave before a replacement.How do I explain the situation to my boss,I could have told him friday but he was in a very bad mood to start so it would have been awkward to break the news plus having to work alongside of him for the majority of my shift would not have helped my cause any. I am sooo nervous about his reaction plus the other employees reaction I just know nobody will be happy with me.

  34. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    October 11th, 2015 at 6:55 pm

    Carrie, just get it over with! Use the outline above, and let them know ASAP. They might be pissed. Too bad. Do it and move on. Good luck!

  35. Ny725i@gmail.con

    October 23rd, 2015 at 5:50 am

    Hi Laura,
    I’ve been working at my current company for three years. I’ve had two promotions during that time. For the last year, I’ve been working in a position from which I can’t go any higher, as it’s a small company. I’ve been freelancing for sometime and have a few ideas about starting my own company. I cannot expand that unless I leave my current job, as I can’t represent the two companies at the same time. I feel that at this point, my current job is holding me back from where I want to go and I have learned as much as I could and it’s time to move on. What would you advise?

  36. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    November 30th, 2015 at 9:01 pm

    SFN, I’d say your first move is to find a job where you can be an employee and have a business; you will want the predictable income. Then start the business.

  37. Virigarcia39@hotmail.com

    November 11th, 2015 at 3:56 am

    Great advice! So I have been working my retail job, and also my first job ever, for a little over a year and everyone in the area I worked in quit suddenly so they depended off me a lot. They scheduled me 4 week days and me being a student with 4 AP classes I told them I only wanted 2 nights but they ignored my availability. Also for the holiday season we will be closing later which means I will be getting 5 hours of sleep. However I want to quit before then but I don’t know how to do it because they will be in need of people in my area since I was the one that basically closed every night. I don’t know how to do it. I’ve tried many times but I always get scared… Any ideas on how to start?

  38. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    November 30th, 2015 at 9:03 pm

    Viri, just do it. Use the script above. The longer you wait, the more inconvenient it will be for them. Their staffing problem is not your problem.

  39. Angela.cusumano128@gmail.com

    November 12th, 2015 at 10:42 am

    Hi Laura,I am a physician assistant for a doctor and I work very closely with my boss/Doctor all day long, we even share the same tiny office space. I was offered a new position with better benefits, work schedule etc. I’ve been working for him for over 3 years and have a pretty large following and a main part of then practice and I know it’s going to hurt him.
    Is this a good way to start the conversation ” hey doc I have to talk to you about something important, this was a very difficult decision for me to make but I am going to be leaving my position here. ”
    I’m lost after that, idk if I should go into detail of why I am leaving because I don’t have anything against him or his company and I know he’s going to be very upset and I know from working very closely with him all day everyday that he is going to put a “pissed off” face on. Also I’m scared he will counter offer. I feel like I need a new fresh start. Any advice would be great

  40. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    November 30th, 2015 at 9:06 pm

    Angela, keep it honest but brief. You’ve appreciated your position/time there, but you’ve found something with benefits and work hours that are better for you. You can tolerate him being upset; his reaction is not your responsibility. You can endure a pissed off face. Before you go in, know if you would accept a counter offer and what you would accept.

  41. Macey.8719@hotmail.com

    November 17th, 2015 at 3:20 am

    Hi Laura!
    I have been at a new job now for a month. Finding it very hard to cope and make a routine here. I live on site which is actually making things harder, not easier. I am struggling to learn routines, and I worry that I have wasted my boss’s time. I don’t feel as though I’m being much of a help at work as I don’t know much. He’s been teaching me a lot, and we get along quite fine. I haven’t lead on that I am unhappy and don’t want to continue working here. I don’t want to say that I am unhappy and make things awkward. I have another job lined up. And really want to take it. It would involve me moving, and I really just need some advice on how to end this job without getting negative comments back from my boss. It’s completely verbal. Also, I am the only staff member here.

  42. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    November 30th, 2015 at 9:10 pm

    Macey, you might get negative comments. You have to just do it. No one else is looking out for your career and life. Advocate for yourself, call the shots in your career, and make your move.

  43. kwoods1217@gmail.com

    November 21st, 2015 at 3:32 pm

    Hi LauraI’ve Benin with my current employer for just short of 6 years. I love the job that I do however my boss is a very hard person to work for. She is rude, demeaning, yells all the time and is a liar. I have had bouts of anexiety over the years. I have been unhappy here almost since I worked here. I have tried over the years to find another job but do to personal reasons and recently divorced and living on my own, I was unable to find a job to support myself. I am now at a point where a have a more stable lifestyle and have finally found a new job. I am the only person who does this job and it will be difficult for her to replace me. I do not know how to explain to her that if am leaving. In the past she has demanded to know why and has even told employees she would not accept their resignation. This woman knows how to make you feel bad.
    I would love any advice you could give.

  44. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    November 30th, 2015 at 9:08 pm

    Kristy, she’s a bully. Prepare your speech, stand your ground, and if she asks you something you don’t want to answer, say so. You give notice, and then you stop showing up. She can’t stop you from leaving.

  45. alesolis8@gmail.com

    November 25th, 2015 at 12:47 am

    Hi Laura!
    I woke up this morning at 4:00am feeling really anxious and nervous because today I plan on having “the talk” with my boss. I have been thinking about quitting my job for some time now, and even though this is like the third time I quit a job, I’m very nervous. I have been surfing the internet to find the best way to quit for days, and this morning I found your post. I loved it. It really helped me to calm down. Plan A did its magic on my nerves, but I think this time I’m going with Plan B (will be singing inside my head to make things easier though).
    Wish me luck! I’ll let you know how it goes.

  46. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    November 30th, 2015 at 9:15 pm

    Alex, you got this! It’s always nerve-racking, not matter how many times you’ve done it. Let me know how it goes!

  47. alesolis8@gmail.com

    December 1st, 2015 at 2:08 am

    Thank you Laura! It went pretty well. My boss is not a good leader so he never begged me to stay when I quit. Two days later he came to me to ask if there was any way I would stay (more money, stuff like that). It was clearly not by his own initiative that he asked me this. I still said no. I think it is important to keep your dignity intact if you are not happy doing what you’re doing!

  48. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    December 1st, 2015 at 5:21 pm

    Congrats, Alex! Jobs come and go; hopefully dignity survives them all.

  49. marianne.montori@gmail.com

    November 29th, 2015 at 10:02 pm

    I’m so worried to quit my job that I’m so unhappy at because my boss relies on me so much. Quitting will obviously upset and stress him out. I’ve been given a new.opportunity but am afraid of inconveniencing my current boss.Sincerely,
    Desperate for a back bone

  50. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    November 30th, 2015 at 9:09 pm

    Be inconvenient. Your future and happiness are worth his inconvenience.

  51. marianne.montori@gmail.com

    December 1st, 2015 at 1:58 am

    I did everything you said and recommended and it worked beautifully! Thank you for the reassurance!

  52. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    December 1st, 2015 at 5:19 pm

    So glad to hear it, Marianna. Congratulations!

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  54. amberleesidor@gmail.com

    December 16th, 2015 at 2:32 am

    I just started training at a new job. I was called interviewed and hired immediatley. But come to find out a girl just quit and according to the staff my new boss is a narcissist who looks for perfection but always finds a problem and belittles you. Saying” I dont know” is unacceptable” and you must be a mind reader. I am a nervous wreck because I was bombarded with information the first two days and not even able to put anything into practice yet but I am expected to be there by myself this weekend with a boss who will think I’m an idiot because I wasnt trained correctly. Plus I don’t think I asked for enough money because I wasnt aware that they would have me doing so much. My question is how do I quit now. Tomorrow will be day three. What do I say? They gave me a key yesterday on my first day.

  55. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    January 5th, 2016 at 11:57 pm

    Jennifer, it’s FINE to quit a new job. Read here:http://yourcareerhomecoming.com/can-i-quit-my-new-job/
    Then use the template from this post to practice. You don’t need to give any other reason than “It’s not a good fit.”

  56. kiraley97@gmail.com

    December 21st, 2015 at 7:40 pm

    I’ve worked at my job, part-time for a little over half a year. The director (my boss) and vice director have always been very understanding when it comes to me and the other employees. I’m just not sure I want to keep doing my job. I take pictures for a small town museum and it’s very important, I’m afraid I’ll be letting them down or disappointing them. How do I bring up the possibility of me leaving

  57. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    January 5th, 2016 at 11:17 pm

    Kay, don’t bring it up until you know for sure. Then you can give notice. It’s not a discussion. You decide and then inform.

  58. kiraley97@gmail.com

    January 6th, 2016 at 3:06 am

    Miss Laura,
    Thank you very much for both the advice and replying to me. I just get really emotional during things like this and felt like I needed help. Thanks again.

  59. mohamedrafeekbe@gmail.com

    December 29th, 2015 at 12:24 am

    Hi,
    I need an advice on my resignation. my situation is different from what you described. My Boss is an analytic person and will not allow me to speak in any meeting. I myself screwed by accepting their offer for the same wages I previously worked. Although it is low, I managed myself and put extra effort to fit in, Re-locate, even starved for food. These thing is continuing for the last one year. Now I do not want to continue. Because last week i had my performance meeting where my boss told i may not be getting the desired salary what i previously asked for(Even i achieved lot than others). I asked him triple the time of my current salary(because that was the salary i originally asked for). So i told him i need three months of time to decide whether to accept your offered salary. In this three months i am sure i will be getting an opportunity which is better than this. But i do wants to continue with this company.

    So my questions are:
    1.How can i ask for more salary?
    2.If he is not ready to provide good salary(triple the time of my current salary), How to propose my resignation by stating the salary and other problems?
    3.What to do with my new employer about this issue?(because now i am about to relocate to a different country, So how to ask for a good salary with my new employer?)

  60. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    January 6th, 2016 at 12:00 am

    Hi, Mohamed. This is my favorite resource for salary negotiation: http://salarytutor.com/
    You don’t propose resignation; you just do it! Use the outline above. You don’t need anyone’s agreement. If you don’t think your boss will listen, you can send your resignation in a letter.

  61. mohamedrafeekbe@gmail.com

    January 6th, 2016 at 3:04 am

    Thanks for your kind reply and i will follow your words for better result and get back to you.Thank you

  62. Anonymous

    January 2nd, 2016 at 8:52 pm

    […] That damn tie. I felt ridiculous. Every time I put on that tie, I hated myself a little bit. I would put it on, tuck it into my apron, pull my hair into a ponytail, and feel like another person. Another person I didn’t want to be. Seriously, how could I be this person?! I had a Master’s degree. I was an actor. I didn’t move to LA for undertipping customers and sleazy managers who didn’t care if it was me or another warm body holding up a men’s tie. I quit. […]

  63. renatasutiana@yahoo.com

    January 4th, 2016 at 8:34 am

    Hi. I have been planning to resign since two months ago. Before i accepted my. Current position. I was not in the right state of mind when i accpeted tje job, it was like i wanted to resign but remembering that i have committed to the job since months ago, i doubtly said i acvept it. Bow that i am on my position i am really am feeling inefficient and have no energy and interest to do my job. I have been so stressed on how to twll my boss that i intend to resign immediately.

  64. renatasutiana@yahoo.com

    January 5th, 2016 at 11:27 pm

    can you help me how i should tell my boss?

  65. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    January 5th, 2016 at 11:54 pm

    Just use the script above. It’s all right there. Practice and breathe!

  66. renatasutiana@yahoo.com

    January 4th, 2016 at 8:51 am

    How can i tell my boss now? He is coming up with a presentation by the end of the month. W/c makes me even harder to quit. But i know somebody is going to do it for him. Just like before i was in this position…

  67. sgb7695@gmail.com

    January 5th, 2016 at 11:42 am

    I was hired at a university as the executive assistant to a dean. Great opportunity! I thought it was. Until I started. I’m seated in the reception area and greet guest or anyone that walks in the office. I do a few EA tasks but my skills haven’t been tapped. I’m told by the Dean that I am the face of the office. I feel I have stepped back 20 years in my career journey. I was a receptionist 20 years ago. I don’t want to be a receptionist now. My family feels people wish they had a job where they didn’t have anything to do but I want to be utilized and want to contribute. Task that I should do are given to the office manager and she hands them off to me once she has started the process (most times to clean up). For instance, calendar management should be mine but since she has access to the dean’s calendar and email (I do not have access to her email as her EA) she added meetings to the calendar then when I go to add meetings there are conflicts. She reads the dean’s email and decides a meeting needs to be added immediately which causes issues. I have talked with both the Dean and the office manager about my responsibilities. I have asked the office manager if the Dean gives her a task that should come to me feel free to pass it on and if she thinks it’s necessary to let the Dean know please do so. The OM is constantly saying how happy she is that I’m on the team because she is sooo busy, but she refuses to speak up when task that should go to me are given to her. I am tired of being the receptionist and since my six months probation has not ended this is a perfect time to let them know the position isn’t a good fit for me. How do I tell them? I do have another opportunity that will challenge me and utilize my EA and project management skills.Frustrated Executive Assistant well now the Executive Receptionist

  68. laura@yourcareerhomecoming.com

    January 6th, 2016 at 12:02 am

    Patrice, use the template above. Everything is there. You’ll do great!

  69. june704@aol.com

    February 8th, 2016 at 4:09 am

    Hello Laura – i’m planning on leaving my position I’ve been unhappy with to work with my husband full-time. We’ve been talking about this for some time and as his business continues to grow, the timing feels right. This will also be a career change as I will finally be pursuing my interests.

    I’m just not quite sure how much information I should provide and even if I attempt to be vague I’m sure questions will be asked. Is it odd to say that I’ll be working with my husband?

  70. laura@laurasimms.net

    February 8th, 2016 at 7:00 pm

    Congratulations, Joyce. I don’t think it’s odd to say that you’ll be working with your husband. This is your story to tell. You tell as much or as little as you feel comfortable with. If you are asked questions you don’t want to answer, you can always say something like, "I’m not quite ready to spill the beans on that one yet" or "I’d rather not go into it until all the details are ironed out."

  71. msbella1025@gmail.com

    February 8th, 2016 at 6:03 pm

    Hi.. Lara. I can relate with the post by Elise. I just started this job a week ago and fill mislead. The job is more for younger people maybe in there 20s. The position took a tole on my body being 37 i was working midnights so i could be home with my toddler and my teenager’s. I found myelf sleeping and not being able to help with homework when needed. My son report card he received Friday he has 3 D’s. His education is more important to me. I spoke to my husband about the job and that i didnt want to go back last night. I could tell he was a little upset about it. I feel like i need to do what is best for me and the kids. I can find something else. I ways had office jobs and i m working on something now. The midnight plant job was not worth the pay or the damage it was causing my body. I feel bad i didnt go in last night, now the staffing company is calling me. I’m a little nerves not knowing what to say. The one lady left me a rude message. I’m trying not to call her back and go off because that would not be Christian of me to do. Should i respond back my text? I would feel comfortably doing that instead of calling them back. I just wanna text saying i will not be returning and leave it at that. Lara what should i do. Thank you.

  72. laura@laurasimms.net

    February 8th, 2016 at 6:57 pm

    Hi, Robyn. The professional thing to do would be to let the staffing company know that the job is not a good fit for you and that you won’t be returning. That’s all you have to say. Via text is fine. Best of luck finding something that will be better for you and your family.

  73. msbella1025@gmail.com

    February 8th, 2016 at 8:27 pm

    Thank you Laura. I will do that.

  74. bluemonster666

    March 29th, 2016 at 8:15 am

    Hi Laura! I have been at my job for a year now and I hate it. I want to quit as soon as possible, but I have no idea how to bring it up without it being awkward. I work in a very small shop so with 5 other employees, so there is no where to run. The thing that makes me the most hesitant about quitting is that I get on with most people there and I feel like I am throwing them under the bus. We are already understaffed and people have been starting to take their holidays so we are even more understaffed. I know I need to quit because the job is making me miserable. I am thinking of bringing up the topic by saying that I am looking for a new job that relates to my degree and when I do get a new job, hand in my notice then.

  75. laura@laurasimms.net

    March 29th, 2016 at 2:30 pm

    Hi! I hate to tell you this, but it’s going to be awkward no matter what. Use the script I provide to minimize the weirdness 😉 You have to put your loyalty to yourself first and your career first. You can do it! Good luck!

  76. Shawna Corkins

    April 11th, 2016 at 6:11 am

    God so I have 2 jobs for just under 6 months now my 2nd job just offered me shift lead. I wanna quit my 1st job because it is t going anywhere…. I’m so scared to tell my boss. There’sdays where is in a good mood and other days where she is in a bad mood and I always catch her on her bad mood days .. .. Idk how to tell her I’m leaving in just under a month….. Any advice

  77. Erin Pea

    June 23rd, 2016 at 2:51 pm

    I’d love to have a script for what to say to your boss when you want to go freelance. Would you consider creating a blog post on this topic, Laura? Thank you 🙂

  78. laura@laurasimms.net

    June 23rd, 2016 at 3:35 pm

    Erin, could you let me in on your specific concerns?

  79. Doogeruoy Sihtdaer

    August 24th, 2016 at 9:34 pm

    I told my boss I was leaving and handed them my resignation letter. They tore the letter up right in front of me and said, "Let’s think about this over the weekend and talk next Monday." I was speechless. I didn’t know what to think or do, so I just left their office and went back to my desk and made this post.

  80. laura@laurasimms.net

    August 24th, 2016 at 11:30 pm

    Hi, Doogeruoy. I’m sorry that happened to you; what a violating and obnoxious response. Print another copy, hand it in again, and say, "My decision is final. There is nothing to discuss." Quitting is not consensual. They don’t have to agree. You just say, "My decision is final" as many times as it takes.
    And what a good reminder of why you’d want to leave a place like this!

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